I learned about the Dear 15 Me movement today and while I don’t usually jump on these type of bandwagons this particular cause had me thinking about 15-year-old me. Honestly, if I had the confidence that I do today when I was 15 I would have been unstoppable.
Sure, there have been a lot of experiences that have gotten me to the “I give zero fucks about what people think about me’ attitude that I have today but why couldn’t I have this sentiment back then? LIfe would have been so much easier if I had the ability to hold my head high, set my own trends, speak up without having a tremor in my voice, etc.
I guess everyone has to go through the angst of being 15 but maybe this movement will help fast track some of these young ladies towards their inevitable greatness.
So here are a few things I wish I could tell 15-year-old me:
- The problems you have at 15 will not be problems forever
Believe me, you’ll have a whole set of other problems but those things that seem like the biggest deal ever won’t even be a blip on your radar. I promise.
2. Your classmates, you’ll never see them again
And are you relieved? Seriously, most of those kids were total shit heads! You may run into them from time to time in the grocery store when you’re home for a visit but those people who seemed so significant back then are irrelevant. High school was a class system that only mattered for that short period and doesn’t go beyond graduation. I don’t remember if that girl buying a bag of lemons was a cheerleader or not. All I know is that today she has three kids and better not try to cut me off in the express lane.
3. Boys are nice but they’re just boys
Don’t get tied up in caring too much about what they think about you. They are nice to look at and there is no avoiding this “boy-crazy” phase but don’t get hung up on them. The good thing about boys is that there’s a million of them and they’re not going anywhere. Don’t daydream about spending the rest of your life with the dweeb that sits next to you in Algebra. Be selfish and think about you and only you for a while. There’s so many potential crushes waiting for you out there.
4. Be a kid
Go Trick-or-Treating. Let your mom throw you a birthday party with hats and a piñata. Those are privileges that you’ll only have for a short time. You don’t need a job and checkbook just yet. Trust me.
And generally take care of yourself. You only get one skin so be good to it.
6. Be Nice
Don’t let school politics dictate who sits next to you at lunch. Carry this throughout your life. If you’re genuinely nice to people then you’ll be happy and everyone will love you.
7. Recognize how big the world is
Seriously, it’s huge. Make plans to see as much of it as you possibly can.
I was not the popular kid in high school. I was in Chorus and Drama (keep in mind that we didn’t have Glee and Pitch Perfect back then, that shit was NOT cool). I didn’t get asked out ONCE and I’m pretty sure no one knew I existed most of the time. I thought that version of me was who I was destined to be forever but I was so wrong. Today, I’m pretty fucking awesome. I am confident and funny and have more friends who love me than I know what to do with. Who would have thought!